"CONFLICT RESOLUTION"

CONFLICT RESOLUTION:
A biased mentality automatically disqualifies a person from counseling married couples and other relationships! With many corrupted counselors, certain protocol should be enacted. Do not allow yourself to be influenced by one side of the story. This is a deal breaker! Never talk to one party and conceal it from the other; this becomes a red flag. Remember, it is not about you, it is about the people being counseled. This demonstrates trustworthiness.  Keep in mind, however, that people will often exaggerate or neglect to reveal all the facts. This is done to persuade your sound judgement.
Convene a meeting where both parties are present. During this meeting encourage the parties to reveal to the other what was shared with you in private and never play one side against another. Avoid gathering information for your personal gain. As a mediator, keep yourself honest and driven by integrity. The plethora of issues discussed is a diversion from the root of the problem. Once the root is exposed, establish a method for healing. Your objective must not be to exacerbate turmoil but to de-escalate tension.
Personally, I have learned to never allow myself to be placed in a compromising position where the parties trust is broken from one who should serve as a purveyor of godly counsel. Furthermore, once the healing is executed, the counselor does not want to be seen as the enemy.
So many couples become the victims of a cover up in the name of counseling, coaching and mediation. Not everyone who counsels is capable. Find someone who has the best interest of both parties. The focus should be ‘restoration’ and ‘resolution’. Learn to keep people out of your affairs. Never kill someone with your words and then choose to stay with them. Professional counseling should never be off the table. We as leaders must be committed to the oath to which we have affirmed and we should never disclose the privacy of those being counseled.